Itsy bitsy..

Why do some people feel the need to know the tiniest detail of everything?
What possible need can they have for knowing everything about everything?
Seriously, I know I'm a girl and everything, but I've never felt the need to know what someone was wearing, or how they wore it or whatever..
Take for instance a conversation I had with a friend of mine regarding a woman who's new to the area and someone who shall become (in)famous in the community, simply because of who she's married to..
Friend: What does she look like?
Me: A woman
Friend: Yeah, I know, but what was she wearing? Did she look old? Who did she look like?
Me: I just gave salaam to her, I didn't pay attention to what she was wearing!
Friend: Yes, but surely you can explain what she looked like?
Me: How'd you mean?
Friend: Skinny, chubby? etc etc?
At which point I sigh and give up.
I mean what's the point in me describing someone who she'll be acquainted with at some point in the future anyway? I mean what's the benefit? Nothing will have been gained from knowing the small, minute details.
Yeah, I talk too much fair enough. Though I don't feel the need to actually go into details about who was where, wearing what, doing what, with God knows who.
Such talk usually gives rise to backbiting which gives rise to rumours...Spreading like wildfire..

Prophet Muhammad said :"Do you know what backbiting is?" They said, "God and His Messenger know best." He then said, "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked him, "But what if what I say is true?" The Messenger of God said, "If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim)
So...message for self: Avoid backbiting like the plague. But what about friends who constantly backbite? What do I do then? I've become really anti-social..because usually the topic of conversation will usually lead to what someone else is upto or whatnot.. So I dunno..

2 comments:



Anonymous said...

wasaalmz...yeah i've 'advertised' it on LI, but in very small letters. Wow some deep thoughts there, and all very true. I can't see any possible any good coming out of back biting myself. Anywho... have fun at those weddings :D.

Salaamz out.

Anonymous said...

Backbiting is un-cool no matter what religion/culture/pit you're from. So tell your friends... They ought to see the wrong in it. Even if they have a hard time taking it from an Islamic pov, seeing things rationally would do too.

- The Ruler

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